The Deception of Women.

Have you ever walked into a shopping mall or go to church and find a lovely, pretty Godly woman who moves your heart and make you feel like she is the woman of of your dreams? When most guys meet su...ch a woman, they tend to make some stupid and silly mistakes but I am here to advice and correct you brother. When you meet a woman, your mind will be infatuated, and so it is advisable to WAIT and pray about it for the bible says the steps of a righteous man are directed by God.

Jeremiah 33:3 (NIV)
‘Call to me and I will answer you and tell you great and unsearchable things you do not know.’

Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

When I was a teenager I used to mingle with beautiful women who would make me wonder how I had survived without them, but after a week, I would realize that it was never love but lust. Lust ruined my relationship with many girls and it ripped off the hearts of many girls. That was so evil.

When you meet someone, get to know her and see if she is compatible with you. Now l am about to reveal how most of the guys makes their mistake. If you have been chasing a woman and she shows the following signs, please just leave her.

• If she doesn't respond to your messages or text you only when she is wanting something

• If you buy credit/top for her and she only sends you a message to say thank you or sometimes wait for you to contact her

• If you have been pursuing her for over a month and she is not responding to your proposal.

From the Biblical perspective in

Genesis 3:9 (NIV)
But the Lord God called to the man, “Where are you?”

Proverbs 18:22 (NIV)
He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.

A man is the leader and he was given a superior office as compared to that of a woman. To make this simple I would use the following example. You are likened to a man in a ship while she is likened to a woman in a small boat. As a man you are to find the small boat and sail your ship towards the boat and invite the woman (which is finding as stated in Proverbs) to jump off from a little boat and join you on your journey to marriage and the vision of your life. If she is not interested to leave the boat, be a gentleman and respect her wish and tell her that you hope she will find another ship. Its painful to let go brother but if you keep sailing there is another person on a boat, waiting to be rescued and join your ship but the longer you take on someone who is not interested the more you will keep on investing in a bank of no interest. In the end you will run out of fuel, resources and you might even loose focus of where you are to find your own boat to rescue.

The Deception of Women

The Deception of Women

If a woman is interested she will show you positive signs but so many women are now flirting with guys, giving false hopes so they could enjoy some benefits when they really know that they are not interested. She will keep on saying that she needs time and give many excuses of not accepting your proposal.

It's simple, if it isn't you that she wants, keep it moving. Why waste energy trying to understand why she don't want you when you can use that same energy working on you. Truth is, God answers our prayers, it's just that we either choose to not receive them because they are not packaged the way we like or we are just not ready to receive them. Stop chasing those who do not choose you and let God bring your blessing to you. This is clearly revealed in 1samuel 8 when the nation of Israel wanted a king but God's answer was not packaged the way they wanted. They chose not to receive it and Saul disappointed them. They suffered many consequences. Let go and let God.

YOU CANT KEEP ON CHASING AFTER SOMETHING THAT DOESN'T WANT TO GET CAUGHT. LET GO AND KEEP SAILING.

Reasons why you Should 'NOT' get Married

Don't get MARRIED if...

1. If you’re not ready to delay gratification when your are angry. To hold your tongue, lower your voice and sometimes wait till the appropriate time, day or even month before you can deal with an issue thoroughly…. don’t get married. Immaturity is the inability to delay gratification. Marriage is for the mature.

2. If you’re not ready to leave center stage and allow someone else to become your focus, your study, your muses… don’t get married. Selfish people make very bad spouses. In marriage you don’t lose yourself but your heart has to be big enough to gain someone else. And soon, with God’s blessing: little, crying, diaper soiling, demanding little ones are coming!

3. If you are not ready, to stand up and calmly deal with meddling in laws as a united front: The opinionated sister, the insensitive uncle, the domineering father, the manner less brother, the nosy aunt….. don’t get married. Boundaries do not exist automatically, they must be created. A good spouse is committed to respectfully stand up for and protect their marriage from meddling relatives. Don’t abandon your spouse to your relatives. It’s betrayal.

4. If you are not ready to pay bills…. don’t get married. Love does not pay bills. Kenya power will not give a waiver because your love is O so strong and your gazes at each other, O so romantic.

5. If you are not ready to let go of your opposite sex “best friends” and invest that into your spouse. To like, to laugh, to play, to be silly and to enjoy life with them, above anyone else… don’t get married. Affairs happen because people did not marry their best friends. Someone else holds their heart. Someone else gets them better. Someone else inspires them more. Marry your best friend and cultivate your friendship so that you remain best friends.

6. If you are not ready to be an open book. To tell the whole story of your past, deal with the memories, expose the failures and risk rejection…. don’t get married. It is fraud to have someone sign off their life to you without the full details. The past is a touchy and demanding friend. It always shows up in the marriage. It doesn’t enjoy being ignored and the more you snob, the bolder it becomes and the more tantrums it throws. It will mess up the “neat” and “all together lovely” image that you are struggling to maintain.

7. If you are not ready to let go of your philandering and wild oats farming…. don’t get married. Don’t take somebody’s son or daughter and subject them to your germs, your indiscretions and your other women. It never ends well. It’s romanticized in the movies, it’s being fronted as the only “realistic” way to stay married and keep the fire burning. But truth be told, the only thing that the fire will burn will be you, your spouse and your children. That family will burn for generations in bitterness, disease, fear, failure, hatred, broken hearts, broken dreams and conniving.

8. Finally, if you are not ready to let go of the adrenalin rush of a risque life and to settle down…. don’t get married. The great Columbus [who we were told "discovered" America, Have you ever wondered if the Native Indians who were in it, knew that it existed :-) ] had a diary that was long sought for. People wanted to read about the wild journeys, the sea tempest, the reckless pirates they fought, the death and the danger they must have encountered. When it was found, there was great disappointment. Majority of the pages simply had 5 words: “This day, we sailed on.”.

Marriage, like life in general, has many “we sail on” days. You have to learn to find the thrill in the normal everyday of it. If you depend on wild romance, all night sex [ha], romantic cruises, wild parties, compulsive moves across continents, tempestuous fights and make up sessions to be happy, you may be disappointed. You have to learn to thrill in gentle smiles, loving hugs, knowing looks, cozy moments, shared chores, cute babies, everyday work, dreaming together, praying together and simply living together. If these things are not thrilling, exciting and satisfying, you will look for a way out. The “boom twaff” moments are still there, but they are normally punctuations to the 'usualness' of living. They cannot be your reason for getting married. They are unsustainable on an everyday basis. The one you choose must be thrilling to you even in the most mundane of moments.

I pray this helps someone. Remember singles, YOU HAVE THE PRIVILEGE OF CHOICE. Never let anyone pressure you into marriage. You are either ready or you’re not: You decide!. But please don’t marry somebody and then punish them to live with your childish ways for the rest of their lives :-) . A childish baby is cute but a childish adult is extremely frustrating……Marriage is for the MATURE and in many ways, the married, are still being confronted with the demand to grow up day by day. If you are not ready for that demand, don’t get married!

 God is doing some of us a totally new thing.

Amen & Amen !